GRACE MSALAME ON BREAK UP WITH PAUL NDICHU

Media personality Grace Msalame has opened up on her relationship with father of her twin girls, Paul Ndichu.

Speaking on engage talk, she said she dated men who were hardworking, “Those values that I really admired about my father and hard work is the same thing I looked for when it came to the opposite sex. Any man who is hardworking, passionate and creative, naturally won my heart. But as I grew I discovered it’s not black and white or that easy, I broke a few hearts and my heart got broken a few times but I learned.”

Adding, ”Something I discovered through therapy is for the longest time. I thought I had to be a certain way to be loved. Be perfect or if I’m not, this person will leave and funnily enough, I got that from my father. I felt like I had to be a certain way for him to see me, notice me and I carried that into my relationships. So they were doomed to fail, I tried and even later on, I became a mother.”

In May 2010, she ended her relationship with Paul and decided to moved back home, “13 years ago, May 28 2010, on a Friday. Life as we knew it changed drastically. I had just come off of a very bad break up, a public one. That break up humbled me and all I wanted to do was to go back to my parent’s house. My father wasn’t very pleased when I moved out, so I knew he’d be happy to see me home. And for me, the reason was, I just wanted to feel safe.” 

However she was not able to say goodbye to her father who worked in Mombasa and passed away the same day he was meant to come home, “I quickly went back home and at this time my father had launched a radio station down to the coast. He moved a lot between Nairobi and Mombasa so I knew by the end of the week, he will be coming home. I’ll just wait and surprise him. 

Thursday I was a bit off but I couldn’t wait for him to come. But on Friday at 7am, mum screamed upstairs. So we ran up to her room. She’s was on the phone crying and she says Papa. Instantly I knew Papa wasn’t coming home. He suffered a heart attack the day he was meant to come home. And for the longest time I battled with I never got to say goodbye.”