AMBER RAY TALKS ABOUT HER ABUSIVE BABY DADDY

Socialite Amber Ray has admitted to being in a toxic relationship with her baby daddy. Speaking in an interview with Oga Obinna, Amber said they met in their neighbourhood in Kahawa West, “We met in the hood, we loved each other, our nicknames were Beyonce and Jay Z. He was the first person who kissed me and broke my virginity. Our love was something else, he was handsome and I was beautiful, we used to walk holding hands in the hood, we really loved each other.”

Amber says things changed when she gave birth to their son Gavin, he became abusive, “But it all changed after I got the baby. He got a serious job and he started cheating on me and the disrespect became too much. That’s when I started selling Matumbo. I could not go back home, I’m the firstborn in my family and at time, they did not believe in single motherhood you had to be married.”

She added that her baby daddy got her a job at a casino as a waitress but their relationship hit rock bottom, “I started looking for a job when he saw I was serious. He got me a job in a casino as a waitress and he was a driver. But our shifts were different. I got a different job in Westlands and  he was jealous. After all the disrespect the loved I had for him shifted to the baby I didn’t care about him but I never cheated on him for the eight years we were together.”

But when he came home drunk and physically assaulted her. She decided to end the relationship, “One day I got home and my house manager was worried, she asked me about Gavin’s dad. I told her he was at work. I got in the bed and he came home drunk. That night he hit me and my 10 year old brother stopped him. He used to beat me properly, it was so bad.

I walked from my place to parent’s home bare foot, bleeding, my eyes were swollen, I could not see. My mum opened the door and they were shocked. I didn’t go to the police or hospital. I decided to focus on my baby, I went back, picked my clothes and moved back home. Since then we talk but we are not friends, he is close with his son.”

Her advice to women in abusive relationships, “If you have someone toxic in your life leave, do not care about what people say.”