‘WHY WE ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER IS SERIAL INFIDELITY ON THEIR PART WITH MULTIPLE PARTNERS’ MICHELLE NTALAMI CONFIRMS BREAK UP WITH MAKENA NJERI

Businesswoman and social media influencer Michelle Ntalami on Monday, November 8 announced that she is no longer dating her girlfriend, Makena Njeri. In a series of statements, Ntalami said that friends and media have been contacting her regarding their separation but she was still healing. “Friends, media and blogs have reached out to me all year to get me to share on the matter. I couldn’t get to speaking about it because of how painful it was. I realised however, that being silent about it is costing me my own sanity and healing. I have now come to a point where I believe speaking about it will heal me and help me move forward in peace,” wrote Ntalami.

She disclosed that they ended their relationship over infidelity, claiming that Makena cheated on her with multiple partners, two of which have since been confirmed. “The truth of the matter of why we are no longer together is serial infidelity on their part with multiple partners. Those I suspected and confirmed are two individuals; one a public figure, and the other a less known married woman, a health worker. Eventually, these individuals undoubtedly confirmed the above. I attach screenshots and my responses simply to alleviate denial. (All pronouns muted),” she added. 

In a separate post, Ntalami shared confessions from women Makena reportedly cheated on her with, saying that they admitted to what they have done. “Out of kindness and to shield them from any potential attacks, I choose not to mention who these people are. More information from concerned friends, observers and well-wishers I’d meet on my day to day, began coming to me about their affairs especially with influential people or those in the limelight.

The deceit and lies spewn during the relationship have been devastating, to say the least. What’s worse, they have never admitted to what they have done, let alone apologised, despite me giving them several chances all year to come clean. As soon as they knew I found out, they fled, occasionally popping in and out of my life but never once with the truth. This has caused me immense mental and emotional pain. This explains the unfollows and disengagement on social media and socially,” she wrote. 

Ntalami further stated that Makena did not own up to her mistake, maintaining that the break up has immensely affected her mental and emotional health. “When it comes to love and relationships, infidelity will never be in my cards. Sure, no one is perfect. We all make mistakes. But at the very least, if they’d have owned up to what they’ve done, we would be in a much better place. I have sat silently with this pain for almost a year. It has eaten me up inside and affected my mental and emotional health. Each time I am asked about them, I am triggered with the reality of what they did. I now choose me. By speaking up about it, I am denying any more power to my pain. I deserve peace.

What they have done to me is downright heartless. It is not right to go around hurting someone you claim to love, putting on a facade that all is well, while leaving their life in disarray and not being accountable for the pain and trauma caused. Regardless of whether or not we were publicly official with our relationship, it is the principle of breaking a human being in this way that I am calling out. Besides the lies and infidelity, I feel extremely used. I am currently coming to terms with all of this. It has been a tough journey this year, but I am learning to let go of the hurt, move on and simply, adjust back my crown. Forgiveness is an emotion you arrive at, not decide to. My heart is big, I will get there.” 

In her final post, Ntalami thanked the LGBTQ community for  their love and support. “To the LGBTQ community, thank you for your constant love and support. I feel terrible because I was lied to, therefore in turn you were too. It breaks my heart when I recall how hard you rode for us and looked up to us as your beacons. This explains my absence in the events by the company. I will always love and support you, and if nothing else, all the work, effort and love I painstakingly put into the company we both began is the biggest evidence of that, and my greatest gift to you,” she said.