ISAAC MWAURA’S WIFE NELIUS MUKAMI TALKS GROWING UP WITHOUT A FATHER

Isaac Mwaura’s wife Nelius Mukami, has talked about her experience growing up without paternal love and seeing her mother struggle.

Speaking on Engage Talk, Mukami spoke about her childhood, “I have met people who talk about how terrible or wonderful their fathers were. Sadly, I do not know what it is to have a father. Because the man disappeared before I was born. So the less we talk about him the better. I do not know much about paternal love but I know how it is to be raised by a lady with the purest heart, my mother.”

She disclosed her mother struggled to raise them, “Growing up I never thought of being a mother because I saw my mother struggle. My sister and I had an ordinary childhood and my mum sacrificed a lot. Education was important to her even when school fees were a problem, she ensured we got the best opportunities.”

Mukami also talked about being diagnosed with stage IV endometriosis, “Usually doctors use big words, endometriosis is a big word, but in short, I was told that having kids was going to be really difficult,” she did not receive the news well and kept questioning herself and God.

Through interventions the writer was able to conceive in 2016, “My heart was full so I started shopping for everything in three: baby cots, car seats, everything. At 28 weeks labor came of course we were all not ready, not even the babies but they were here. On January 19^th 2017 my two boys and one girl arrived, because they were not ready for the world, they were rushed to the neonatal ICU.

The trauma and the things I saw in that ICU are things I never thought I’d have to see. The tiniest babies were fighting one of the fiercest battles I’ve ever seen- they were fighting for life, for breathe. It was so difficult to watch children slowly wither to the point of death and there was nothing I could do as a mother.”

The mother of one went home three months later with her son who survived and sunk into depression, “I got so overwhelmed that I did not notice myself and my sanity slipping away, at this point I had lost so much to death and life I felt broken by love so I lost myself to depression.” Nelius started Kena Foundation to help grieving families.